https://www.reddit.com/r/CPTSD/comments/1iiywax/achievement_i_am_out_of_trauma_city/
created by HappyPuppyPose on 06/02/2025 at 09:43 UTC
16 upvotes, 2 top-level comments (showing 2)
I was complaining and crying nonstop for 2 years about how I was stuck in trauma city - as in, where my abusive family lives. Where people have a certain hard mindset and everything reminds me of the abuse; where there's no hope and no jobs and no future. And I'm finally OUT OF THERE
I'm now in a city with job opportunities, culture, lots of energetic people and I'm so, so, so, so relieved.
It came at a cost because due to being completely broke (and unemployed due to the nonexistent job market back there) I needed help. I broke NC with my parents which I knew came at a cost. They loved helping me - but they did so because it supports their idea I'm still a dumb, dependent child (I'm in my 30s).
I was really mad at me at first for accepting their help, but I had absolutely no means to move without any help. I feel like a bad person for only contacting them for help and then slowly ghosting them again. But I know it's for my future, for my survival - and in this city, I can finally build the independence I wish I had in the last few years.
I am still feeling ambivalent about the situation, but I am already slowly recovering.
Comment by Hopeful-Ne at 06/02/2025 at 12:37 UTC
2 upvotes, 0 direct replies
Hi from another trauma-city. By the way, that’s a great name—genius. First of all, you have the right to care for yourself and make decisions that ensure your freedom. Second, do you think your parents are going to haunt you with guilt and shame later for their 'help'?
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