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I also talk about politics before meeting up for dates but now I wonder how many of them are lying.
Comment by OldButHappy at 06/11/2024 at 19:58 UTC
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Lots of them.
Comment by No_regrats at 08/11/2024 at 13:15 UTC*
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If you go back to dating, I would straight up asked them if they voted and for whom. Pay attention to not just their answer but to their reaction to you asking. Trumpers are greatly offended, enraged even, that Liberals don't want to date them, they believe they are entitled to a girlfriend who will agree to disagree. Men who didn't vote or who have no empathy for women and minorities or sense of what's going on will not understand why you ask and might hide behind the privacy of the booth. Yes, the ballot is and should be secret. They have a right to the privacy of their vote. But there's nothing wrong with only wanting to date people who openly share your political stance and to refuse to date anyone who would let Trump win. If they don't understand why in 2025, a woman would want to ensure her date voted against Trump, they aren't it.
If they claim they voted for Harris, I would ask them why. It's easy to give a vague answer on your vote. It's harder to look someone in the eye and tell them you voted Harris because XYZ, to come up with sensible, realistic and convincing reasons why you did if you are a secret Trumpist (a lot of scarecrow, caricatural depictions of why Liberals vote the way they do have been pushed out) and to say them out loud while looking earnest. Plus you can assess their reason.
I would also scour their social media, going back to this month and previous months, for any hint of their opinion. A lot of people are openly gloating right now. A lot of people are openly mourning right now. In a year, when they are on a date trying to pretend they are centrist or whatever, these posts might still be there, buried down in their history, for anyone to dig. Or if you want to take it a step further: just eliminate anyone who didn't post encouraging their social network to vote for Harris. Again, it's easy for a Trumpist to tell a woman he wants to fuck that he voted Harris, it's much harder to have proclaimed this same stance to his entire network this season.
I would also bring up political issues consistently, especially hot topics. Would they go to a demonstration with you? Again, it's easy to say whatever your date wants to hear during one conversation; much harder to stay consistent in both words and actions over time.