https://www.reddit.com/r/AskWomen/comments/1i7bcwg/what_are_some_ways_you_spoil_your_significant/
created by Mental_Hovercraft788 on 22/01/2025 at 13:42 UTC
613 upvotes, 144 top-level comments (showing 25)
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Comment by minimalistcampqueen at 22/01/2025 at 14:40 UTC
381 upvotes, 2 direct replies
I love upgrading my husbands day to day life. He hates spending money. I don’t know jack shit about computers, but I got him new monitors and other pieces I have no idea what they do. For Christmas, I took him to the world’s largest liquor store and let him go nuts, as he recently got into cocktails. He gets a back rub as least once a day.
I am super excited for Valentine’s Day though. I got into perfumes about 6 months ago and he never wears anything fragrance, like at all. I found him a perfume sample that he loved and for Valentine’s Day he’s getting a full bottle and travel spray!
Comment by msstark at 22/01/2025 at 14:13 UTC
816 upvotes, 5 direct replies
Bring him coffee in bed whenever I get up first (to be fair he does the same for me).
He has a lot of trouble keeping things organized, and he also has a hard time thinking straight when things are messy, you can guess how easily that snowballs. So when I have free time I organize his desk, or bedside table, or closet. It's something I genuinely enjoy doing and it alwayd makes him so happy!
Comment by cheekmo_52 at 22/01/2025 at 17:19 UTC
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When he was alive, I used to come over periodically just to clean his bathrooms. He was sensitive to strong smells, and most bathroom cleaners were really hard on him, so I’d come over every couple of weeks and send him out to the movie’s or something, so I could open all his windows and clean and disinfect his three bathrooms so he didn’t have to deal with the smells.
He took a fishing trip every year, and that week he’d ask me to house sit. So while I was there, alone, I’d tackle a household project he hadn’t gotten to yet. (One year I replaced his kitchen faucet that had broken right before he left. Another year, I replaced his toilet kit to stop it running. One year I had his windows cleaned, etc.) he wasn’t very handy, but I enjoyed that kind of stuff.
Comment by OpinionsInTheVoid at 22/01/2025 at 14:49 UTC
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Through splurging on the goods they won’t buy for themselves. A high-quality yoga mat, good winter boots, etc. The items that are noticeably more expensive, but made to last.
Comment by Imakefishdrown at 22/01/2025 at 15:09 UTC
119 upvotes, 1 direct replies
He loves Mexican food (he's half Mexican) but can't cook so I learned how to make homemade tortillas and carne asada and tri-tip, and other dishes. Next I wanna try and make mole.
Comment by NakkitaBre at 22/01/2025 at 14:38 UTC
43 upvotes, 0 direct replies
Love letters, random love notes, surprise relaxing baths after work and hearty meals ❤
Comment by Cool_Cod_9082 at 22/01/2025 at 14:37 UTC
669 upvotes, 3 direct replies
He cooks for me so he gets the occasional BJ in the kitchen.🤭
Comment by AshenSkyler at 22/01/2025 at 14:47 UTC
210 upvotes, 2 direct replies
Mmm, I need to spoil her more
We've fallen into a routine with 3 kids
I make a home cooked dinner every weeknight, I keep our home clean as best I can as a stay at home mom of 3, I make sure our kids are healthy, safe and fed, but those are just like my job
I guess I do little things where I can? I write love notes, I give back rubs, I'll make her hot coco, or get her coffee ready in the morning but I used to do a lot more that I just don't have time or energy for anymore
Kinda sad
Comment by jelizabeth0801 at 22/01/2025 at 15:18 UTC
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Flirty messages, outfits or just random little sexy things, getting them a small little gift for a random occasion, big ones they’ll love for holidays and birthday. Finding a show together, back rubs, depends on both of your love languages too
Comment by Redhead122024 at 22/01/2025 at 14:23 UTC
146 upvotes, 1 direct replies
Heart-shaped pancakes and coffee in bed every morning, with lots of kisses.
Comment by laviebomeme at 22/01/2025 at 17:56 UTC
60 upvotes, 1 direct replies
- being the safe space for him to be taken care of when he's always taking care of others
- little love notes tucked into his work bag
- consistent BJs (shower is underrated)
- coming up with delicious nutritious meals for us to meal prep together so we feel our best
- making sure he's spoiled on his birthday and Christmas and important dates because he never had that before me (planning a party to invite his friends, special dishes, thoughtful gifts, etc.)
- massages after he plays soccer or has a long day at work
- not spoiling but I always make sure to communicate how I feel or if something's wrong, tell him what's wrong so he doesn't have to guess.
Comment by Admirable-Relief1781 at 22/01/2025 at 15:51 UTC
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I’m an acts of service type lol so I’ll cook for him, organize areas in the house for him, re arrange furniture to make it look more home-y, pick him up random things at the store that I think he might like or that I know he uses and needs more of, give him massages if he had a hard workout that day and he’s sore, he drinks tea almost nightly so sometimes I’ll make his tea for him. But everything is reciprocated✨ he does the same for me. So we’re both just always in a state of “spoiling” each other lol except it doesn’t feel like that…. Just feels like we’re both always taking care of each other and always looking out for one another.
Comment by Loud-Praline2400 at 22/01/2025 at 15:05 UTC
34 upvotes, 2 direct replies
I get him flowers! He loves it. 🥰
Comment by JaneDoe1997 at 22/01/2025 at 16:29 UTC
17 upvotes, 1 direct replies
I cook for him and repair his clothes. I give him massages. And one of my favorite intimate-but-not things to do is give him a haircut. I'm a licensed cosmetologist, but I no longer work in that field. So giving haircuts are a more rare occassion. I've been cutting his hair for over 10 years and there is just something so private and intimate to cutting his hair in our kitchen. He always falls asleep during his haircut, I will give him a scalp massage when I'm done, and we usually shower together after to get off the remnants, I follow that up with a back massage too.
Comment by sulky_banjo at 22/01/2025 at 15:06 UTC
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-I grocery shop for him quite often (we don’t live together). Also I draw pictures on his back when laying in bed, he loves that so much. Anyway that I can baby him and make him feel comfortable in an almost childlike way (he’s a tough guy and has to be tough a lot at work).
Comment by Rant_Supreme at 22/01/2025 at 16:25 UTC
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I try to remember things he likes and i spoil him with touches, compliments and intimacy. He craved those things in a previous relationship but now he doesnt have to ask
Comment by thatsprettylitbro at 22/01/2025 at 15:18 UTC
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We spoil each other in a lot of ways but the main way that I spoil him is that I scratch his head and his back all the time (he’s basically a big cat haha). I would also add massages but it’s honestly kind of spoiling for me too (love touching that gorgeous bod 😍).
Comment by Random_Girl_0 at 22/01/2025 at 14:35 UTC
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He mostly does the spoling. He gives me a massage every night and scratch my back until I fall asleep. He also buys me everything I ask, and things I don't ask for. I always make coffee for him when he asks for it. And I like to cook and bake things that he loves.
Comment by CheesyGorditaKRUNCH at 22/01/2025 at 14:41 UTC
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Scratching the back of his head
Comment by directordenial11 at 22/01/2025 at 15:34 UTC
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Homemade meals from my country (I'm latina, he's white. The enthusiasm is intense, lol), buying coffee when we go out, lots of physical affection, handmade cards, gifts, you name it. He deserves it and puts the same amount of effort into making me feel loved and appreciated.
Comment by Nice_Violinist9736 at 22/01/2025 at 14:48 UTC
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I’m not currently in a relationship right now but for one of my exes I made sure to leave him a message every single morning that had a motivational quote for the day. I would pick out a new on each day and send it to him so he had something to wake up to and to make him feel pumped for the day. He loved them!
Comment by HayleyandJames at 22/01/2025 at 14:47 UTC
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Blowjobs are a pretty easy way to spoil him ☺️
Comment by snailminister at 22/01/2025 at 15:15 UTC
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I cook and bake for us, making sure to pick things he likes. I take care of the laundry&clean. My husband has grown his hair out and likes it when I gently de-tangle and brush it. I tell him honest affectionate things everyday. When he has had rough shift at work I rub or massage him to help him relax.
Comment by Dr__Pheonx at 22/01/2025 at 14:32 UTC
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By helping him to eat healthy.
Comment by coffeebeanbookgal at 22/01/2025 at 15:45 UTC
13 upvotes, 0 direct replies
His love language primarily is touch, so scratching the back of his head, rubbing his arm, etc.
He spoils me a lot, so I'm constantly trying to find ways to reciprocate! I've been trying to get him to eat healthier, so I've been cooking new recipes in the meantime.