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But that's kinda the point of the question, no? Why can men control their emotions at work but not at home, and I mean specifically anger and frustration. The reality of the question is that they most likely feel this is what they can get away with but it leads to a lot of broken families.
Comment by AlarmingCow3831 at 09/03/2025 at 10:51 UTC
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The answer is money. Blowing up at work gets them fired. Blowing up at home might get them a sad/angry partner. One of those is more important than the other.
Comment by kerosenedreaming at 09/03/2025 at 19:48 UTC
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Because those men aren’t controlling anything at work. They’re suppressing it. Big difference. Emotional discipline and emotional suppression are almost identical, the only difference is discipline means you process the emotion and let it pass, suppression means you shove it down deep where it’ll explode later on. Most people in general take the emotional suppression route and then crash out later down the line. It’s not about getting away with anything, it’s that most men are told from a young age that vulnerability or being over emotional is weakness and fundamentally bad, that it makes you not a real man. They are not taught how to have actual emotional discipline, just that emotions are bad, so they do the easiest thing, which is suppression.