Comment by IfICouldStay on 09/03/2025 at 00:53 UTC

98 upvotes, 7 direct replies (showing 7)

View submission: What's something you never understood about the opposite gender?

Why are you so afraid of other men calling you gay?

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Comment by NervousSheepherder44 at 09/03/2025 at 07:50 UTC

13 upvotes, 0 direct replies

I'm a woman but once asked a man if he needed a birthday card for a woman or a man when he said 'fiancée' because obviously you cannot hear the difference of spelling so I wanted to be sure I sent him to the right side of the store and he got so mad🤦🏻‍♀️😂

Comment by Fevnax at 09/03/2025 at 04:17 UTC

12 upvotes, 3 direct replies

It feels like a challenge to one's masculinity.

Comment by SaltWaterInMyBlood at 09/03/2025 at 09:48 UTC

10 upvotes, 1 direct replies

There is a long standing stigma with being gay. This isn't rocket science.

Comment by TheZeroNeonix at 09/03/2025 at 05:04 UTC

8 upvotes, 0 direct replies

I used to be, but I don't really care anymore. Being gay isn't as stigmatized as it was when I grew up.

Comment by KappnCrunch at 09/03/2025 at 16:32 UTC

1 upvotes, 0 direct replies

I'm not afraid of being called gay. There's a large periods of time where gay men are socially ostracized and treated badly by society at large. So probably unconscious fear of violence.

Something you're not allowed to display as a man. (you get called a wimp)

Google Alan Turing or the Stonewall riots.

Comment by ksschank at 09/03/2025 at 19:06 UTC

1 upvotes, 0 direct replies

I don’t agree with this, but I think traditionally we have been conditioned to believe that being attracted to men is something that women do while being attracted to women is something that men do. And people like being treated as the gender they identify as, so men don’t like being labeled as something they associate with belonging to the opposite gender.

Comment by Benza90 at 09/03/2025 at 07:22 UTC

-21 upvotes, 1 direct replies

I'm not afraid, because the emotion I feel isn't fear. It's disgust.