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View submission: What's something you never understood about the opposite gender?
When I was a kid, I had a boy friend group and a girl friend group. Of my girl friend group, there was really only one girl who I ever felt like I had a friendship like I did with the boys. The other girls definitely gave a sense of a friendship heirchy where I was on the bottom or just flat out betrayed my trust and showed that they only liked me for something I could offer ( for example, access to boy friend group). I absolutely needed both because at times I just couldn't deal with the friend group all together at once and it was just easier to hang out with the guys, but I understood that if I ever wanted to really have friends, it ultimately would have to be with the girls.
As a girl, under NO circumstances would I ever be allowed to hang out with the guys without constant adult supervision. They used to hang out at a friend who lived next door to school until their parents got home from work and I would sit alone in the school lobby and be among the last to be picked up every day. The only time I ever got to go to one of the birthday parties after begging, both my parents were there like a third person POV camera in a videogame and I was the first to leave because my parents didn't want to watch anymore.
In addition to that, if I wanted any independence while doing things with girl group, at least 2 other girls had to be there. For safety we had to be all girls and move together in groups. And while I get that because it's a cruel world out there and even with these harsh rules I have had some unfortunate run-ins, pre and post girl herd, girls are ultimately conditioned more often that you are going to come across people that you don't like or don't like aspects of; your schoolmates, your co-workers, and sometimes your spouse after a couple of years but conditions mean you can't just shrug them off. You have to make do with it.
As an adult, I don't really interact with either friend group anymore. Never had that strong friendship that the bros built and didn't even really like the girls to begin with. Nice girl and I talked while we were in college for a while but lost contact when she started studying abroad.
There's nothing here!