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That's what I meant. The person doing this has a correct answer in mind, something they want you to do or want, but wants you to not just do it because they want it, but they want you to want the same thing.
Not to do with morals, but rather the kind of situation where the woman gets upset because the man would rather do something with his friends than go with her while she visits her mother, for example.
Comment by Abject_Champion3966 at 08/03/2025 at 21:53 UTC
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Yeah, it’s more like, I want us to agree on this and share the same frame of mind, rather than you just going along with it.
Comment by Mikeavelli at 09/03/2025 at 01:07 UTC
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So, the reason this comes up is because the two people want different things. This will never result in a man doing what you want to do because he wants to do it. The best case outcome for you is a man who has experienced this before might pick up on you asking him to do what you want without coming out and asking for it.
For men who are not familiar with this yet and are accustomed to direct conversation, "just do what you want" means exactly that. Whatever it is you're asking for isn't actually all that important to you, and he is free to go do the thing he was wanting to do instead of the thing you wanted him to do. He will only figure it out afterwards when you're upset at him for it.