created by paz2023 on 05/02/2025 at 15:54 UTC
40 upvotes, 184 top-level comments (showing 25)
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Comment by wwaxwork at 05/02/2025 at 16:02 UTC
97 upvotes, 6 direct replies
Apologizing less, saying Get Fucked more. Why? Because the amount of stupid in the world is too damn high right now.
Comment by No-Pop-125 at 05/02/2025 at 15:59 UTC
41 upvotes, 4 direct replies
Much less and I am constantly telling younger female co-workers to stop unnecessarily apologizing.
Comment by TurnLooseTheKitties at 05/02/2025 at 16:01 UTC
33 upvotes, 3 direct replies
Apologising for what ?
Comment by Objective-Lab5179 at 05/02/2025 at 16:00 UTC
18 upvotes, 2 direct replies
I'm finding myself not only apologizing more but realizing when I'm wrong. There's a joke between my wife and I that she is the impatient one and I am the stubborn one. I find that I'm in the wrong more often than I'm in the right simply because of my stubbornness. It hasn't done me any favors.
Arguments are not things to win, they are things to learn from.
Comment by westcoastcdn19 at 05/02/2025 at 15:57 UTC
29 upvotes, 2 direct replies
As a Canadian, I really don't know how to stop apologizing
Comment by peaceful_raven at 05/02/2025 at 16:03 UTC
13 upvotes, 0 direct replies
I apologize if I did something wrong or hurt someone.
Comment by mjwsterile at 05/02/2025 at 15:58 UTC
16 upvotes, 0 direct replies
I'm sorry, what?
Comment by SueBeee at 05/02/2025 at 15:59 UTC
7 upvotes, 0 direct replies
LESS. It was a conscious effort. I was spending far too much psychic energy apologizing for just being. I realized how sad that was. It started with all of my emails. I'd write them and then go back and edit out all of the unnecessary apologies. It took time and effort but it was well worth it. It stuck.
Comment by envengpe at 05/02/2025 at 16:06 UTC
5 upvotes, 0 direct replies
I’m becoming more patient with elderly drivers as I have aged. I think to myself ‘he probably served in Korea or Viet Nam’ and a give the man a break.
Comment by lizquitecontrary at 05/02/2025 at 16:22 UTC
6 upvotes, 0 direct replies
No more no less. I apologize when I’m aware that an apology is called for as I’ve always done. I so disliked that 70s thing “love means never having to say you’re sorry”. What? If you love someone you should be very willing to apologize to them when you have done something wrong. And face it, we all mess up everyday.
Comment by Register-Honest at 05/02/2025 at 17:04 UTC
5 upvotes, 0 direct replies
I will apologize if I did something wrong.
Comment by Botryoid2000 at 05/02/2025 at 16:19 UTC
3 upvotes, 0 direct replies
I find myself apologizing more honestly when it really needs to be done. I want to clean up hurts, conflict and misunderstanding as soon as possible.
I apologize a lot less for normal activities, like I don't say "Sorry to bother you, but can you send me that thing you promised to send me a week ago?" I have tried to eliminate "sorry" from all work emails unless I truly messed up.
Comment by marklikeadawg at 05/02/2025 at 16:03 UTC
5 upvotes, 2 direct replies
Much less. Because I don't care what you all think.
Comment by nontrackable at 05/02/2025 at 16:04 UTC
3 upvotes, 2 direct replies
Much less. You just don’t care as you age. Unless you create great harm which is hardly ever as far as I know. I don’t apologize. I’ve learned that people take it as weakness and use it to take advantage of you
Comment by h20rabbit at 05/02/2025 at 16:06 UTC
3 upvotes, 0 direct replies
Less. It's been a journey. Growing up it was pretty clear women were meant to serve and be subservient to their family of origin, men and then their children. It takes time to notice and unwind unhealthy behaviors.
Comment by ComprehensiveWeb9098 at 05/02/2025 at 16:24 UTC
3 upvotes, 1 direct replies
I have apologized to both of my kids for being impatient while raising them.
Comment by fuckinoldbastard at 05/02/2025 at 15:59 UTC
2 upvotes, 0 direct replies
What for?
Comment by Butterbean-queen at 05/02/2025 at 16:11 UTC
2 upvotes, 0 direct replies
What would I be apologizing for? If I do something that hurts someone I know, I apologize. But I’ve done that my whole life. And as I’ve gotten older I’ve become better at not hurting people. You live, you learn, you gain wisdom.
Comment by No_Percentage_5083 at 05/02/2025 at 16:12 UTC
2 upvotes, 0 direct replies
It's the same amount as I've grown older. I was taught as a young person to only apologize for things I do wrong or that hurt others and nothing else. I was also taught not to say things in anger that I don't mean or do things I don't mean.
I've seen so many people do that --and then have to apologize for it.
Comment by CoffeeChocolateBoth at 05/02/2025 at 16:24 UTC
2 upvotes, 0 direct replies
None to those who don't matter unless I have done something wrong. I've always been this way. More to the two I love most in my life because they deserve to hear me say I'm sorry when I do something wrong, and I do wrong here and there and feel bad about it, so of course I'll apologize to them. It doesn't hurt me to say I am sorry but it helps them to know I really am.
Comment by kwturner69 at 05/02/2025 at 16:40 UTC
2 upvotes, 1 direct replies
More. I agree with everyone saying that the people of Earth are getting dumber and aren't deserving of apologies. But apologizing, and more specifically, forgiving these people is important for my health. I don't need to raise my stress level any higher than it already is by not giving someone a simple apology. Even if it's not my fault. So what? Let's practice kindness towards one another. Nothing will be gained with bitterness. Peace!
Comment by Jazzlike_Struggle812 at 05/02/2025 at 16:43 UTC
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More. Because I've matured and gained some humility as I've gotten older, and I feel more convicted when I act badly or hurt others.
That said, I only apologize when I've done something wrong. I can't stand it when young people say sorry for asking a question, or just passing me in a hallway. What are they sorry for? Existing?
Comment by Direct_Ad2289 at 05/02/2025 at 16:56 UTC
2 upvotes, 1 direct replies
Am Canadian Apologies are just part of my identity
Comment by Independent_Ad_4934 at 05/02/2025 at 19:15 UTC
2 upvotes, 0 direct replies
Young people for the most part are rude and privileged. Us older folks were brought up differently. We respected others. Now we don’t suffer fools lightly. This world is loaded with fools.