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Comment by AutoModerator at 26/01/2025 at 17:50 UTC
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Comment by danceswithsockson at 26/01/2025 at 18:04 UTC
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So far, so good. It’s been 25 years or so.
Comment by Long-Adhesiveness839 at 26/01/2025 at 19:01 UTC
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I have a 15-year gap with my wife, all was well until I retired. I was ready to downsize and take life a bit slower, she was not. We are finding our way, but I retired this past April, and we have had a lot of changes in a very short period, it was a rough go at first.
Comment by Late_Resource_1653 at 26/01/2025 at 19:24 UTC
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My aunt did this. She is completely miserable.
He has now been a cranky old man for years, and she has had to care for him. Now, he is at a point where it's touch and go where he may need to be in hospice, a care home, or constant at home nursing.
She does love him. But he's been awful to her for years. And she confided in me that she stayed because she loves his kids and felt like at this point, she had to. Even though he got cruel in his old age. Even though her life could have been better
He's draining the life out of her.
May/December is stupid. At the start, there's a weird dynamic if you are really young. Maybe not if middle aged. But as you get older again... I feel so bad for my aunt