https://www.reddit.com/r/AskMenOver30/comments/1igyi42/what_makes_you_feel_loved/
created by dmma2019 on 03/02/2025 at 20:05 UTC
21 upvotes, 39 top-level comments (showing 25)
What can a woman do that makes you feel like you are hers? Where she cherishes you, worships you? When you finally decide to tell her you love her.
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Comment by pvitoral21 at 03/02/2025 at 20:09 UTC
46 upvotes, 1 direct replies
Remember details of something I like / I said and when touches me in a certain way
Comment by MissyMurders at 03/02/2025 at 20:09 UTC
20 upvotes, 2 direct replies
Dunno mate, it’s never happened to me before
Comment by nakfoor at 03/02/2025 at 20:16 UTC
25 upvotes, 1 direct replies
Words of affirmation for me. It's not enough for me to hear "you're the best", I want to be recognized for my efforts. I'm not talking about doing the dishes once and wanting to hear "good boy". I want some appreciation for showing up in specific ways over the long term.
Comment by ehpotsirhc_ at 03/02/2025 at 20:29 UTC
9 upvotes, 0 direct replies
For me it’s acts of service.
I had to grow up quick and have been taking care of myself at an early age. So if she does a simple task of picking something up for me on the way home or just gets me a glass of water even when I’m not thirsty she will be a god to me.
Also when she gives you those fuck me eyes across the room somewhere public. God I love that
Comment by LifeResetP90X3 at 03/02/2025 at 20:26 UTC
6 upvotes, 0 direct replies
Not looking for a woman to "worship" me, that's not healthy or sustainable love
Comment by Don_Minu at 03/02/2025 at 20:32 UTC
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Being appreciated, cared for and allowed to provide care, wanted, respected, trusted, and monogamous.
Comment by Key-Dare8686 at 03/02/2025 at 20:37 UTC
6 upvotes, 2 direct replies
Peace, respect and intimacy while in a relationship makes me feel loved.
Comment by 00rb at 03/02/2025 at 20:30 UTC
10 upvotes, 0 direct replies
Someone who's interested in everything I have to say. Willing to follow me down my tangents and random observations without wanting me to "get to the point."
Comment by [deleted] at 03/02/2025 at 20:15 UTC
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Comment by OkQuantity4011 at 03/02/2025 at 20:12 UTC
5 upvotes, 0 direct replies
For me it's all about what I can actually see.
I see if she's looking around or not.
I see if she's looking at me.
I see her perspective about the future and whether it includes me.
Love is not really something that can be faked, so it's hard to advise you on how to demonstrate it.
Comment by YouCanTouchMeThere at 03/02/2025 at 20:52 UTC
5 upvotes, 0 direct replies
Understanding and acceptance. Not trying to turn me into a person I'm not.
I understand that no one is perfect and "love me how I am" is not a reasonable expectation. Everyone can grow and evolve. But there's a difference between pointing out hurtful patterns that can be worked on and trying to mold someone into an idealized version that they had in their dreams.
Comment by Daddpooll at 04/02/2025 at 01:09 UTC
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Too many women say the right thing without doing it. Follow through. That's the "I feel loved" button. You say you wanna go on a certain date with me, try something new in bed, join me for a hobby of mine. Do it with enthusiasm and try to enjoy it or be honest that it's not your cup of tea. Have interests for me to be enthusiastic about. And want me in that personal space. These things feel like they're missing sometimes. It's a lonely feeling
Comment by Best_Pants at 03/02/2025 at 20:40 UTC
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Patience and understanding. Because I'm not all right in the head.
Comment by AssPlay69420 at 03/02/2025 at 20:42 UTC
2 upvotes, 0 direct replies
Falling apart and yet having it be okay with her
Comment by SDtatis23 at 03/02/2025 at 20:46 UTC
2 upvotes, 0 direct replies
Words of affirmation
Comment by freenEZsteve at 03/02/2025 at 20:48 UTC
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With perhaps an excess of candor and answering solely for myself.
That I feel like she prefers my touch to everyone else's. yes even their kids if they have kids, then I feel like I have a chance with her
Comment by Alarmed_Cheetah_2714 at 03/02/2025 at 21:01 UTC
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Being taken seriously. Being understood rather than judged. A willingness to satisfy my needs and desires.
Comment by Idrinkbeereverywhere at 03/02/2025 at 23:16 UTC
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It's going to take a lot to convince me dating is worth it again. I never felt loved.
Comment by chefnee at 03/02/2025 at 23:18 UTC
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I come home and she says, “Have you Eaten yet?” Simple things.
Comment by DrDew00 at 04/02/2025 at 00:42 UTC
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Look at me like you're starving and I'm a cheeseburger.
Do things for me or with me without me asking because I'm not going to ask. I would rather do it myself or by myself than ask her to do anything for me.
Touch me.
Put the phone away and be present, even if that means neither of us is doing anything except existing together.
Comment by MostEstablishment007 at 04/02/2025 at 01:16 UTC
2 upvotes, 0 direct replies
Physical affection (i.e., kisses, hugs) and be my biggest cheerleader - I get enough sh*t from the outside world and other competitors. I don't need it from my partner too.
Comment by BlKaiser at 04/02/2025 at 08:07 UTC
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Physical touch. Not necessarily anything sexual. I mean hugs, holding hands etc.
Comment by xDznutzx at 03/02/2025 at 21:17 UTC
4 upvotes, 2 direct replies
Sometimes just stfu and allow me to lead, no questions asked, no doubts expressed, just go with it. Most men will think most senerios through before even attempting something. Granted not all the time, if it's a life decision, we most certainly do.
Subtle touches when not expecting it. Wife did this to me the other night, completely caught me off guard.
Last but not least, stop volunteering me for everything for everybody, no I'm not a mechanic, no I won't build this or that for you, yes I love my down time and peace 😁
Comment by NameLips at 03/02/2025 at 20:51 UTC
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For me? Physical touch. The little touches, like putting a hand on me.
She tries to make me happy by gestures of consideration, like not doing things I've said I didn't like, or suggesting restaurants she knows I like. But I'm a very oblivious and forgetful person and I tend to either not notice acts of consideration, or forget I have ever expressed an opinion so I would never notice if it was met. It drives her batty when I praise a food I (apparently) said I didn't like years ago, because she remembers what I say and think a thousand times better than I do.