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I think it's fucking stupid. Hell, I watch porn, too, and boyfriend and I both want to record us fucking to watch later. The only time porn is bad is when someone (man or woman) becomes addicted to it.
I think the chicks who have a problem with it are just control freaks. "My man is ONLY allowed to get off to ME, and only when I say so!" type of deal
Comment by victorianfollies at 28/01/2025 at 10:39 UTC
1 upvotes, 1 direct replies
YIKES the responses you’ve gotten. Puritanism really is live and well, isn’t it 🫣
Comment by AriGryphon at 27/01/2025 at 22:03 UTC
0 upvotes, 1 direct replies
I think ethical sourcing of porn is important, too, though. Watching literal sex slaves on a site with a reputation for that is a genuine problem, and the callousness involved in not giving a shit if the person you're off to is actually consenting as long as it gets you off is pretty widespread because it's all fantasy to the consumer. We forget that the actors in porn are real human beings and contributing to how profitable it is to exploit people. But the amount of people whose ONLY sex ed is porn is it's own issue as well, with people having some weird ideas of what feels good because of the fantasies cultivated in porn for so long not being recognized as fantasies.
Porn has real issues but enjoying and being turned on by watching other people have sex is not inherently evil. The industry is, like everything industry at this point, thank you capitalism.
Comment by bunnypaste at 27/01/2025 at 16:49 UTC*
-29 upvotes, 5 direct replies
"Pick me! Pick me! I'm such a *cool* girl. I'll let you do whatever you want, and disrespect me however you please! I don't want you to think I'm one of those *controlling* or *insecure* ones who won't let you furiously beat off to whatever you want regardless of how it impacts me, our connection, your sexuality, my sexual satisfaction, and the relationship"
There is nothing wrong with wanting your partner to only get off to you. That's the definition of monogamy, sexual commitment, and fidelity... and those things are a pretty dead concept in our culture today because of things like porn. Porn is a loophole riiiiiight around sexual exclusivity because it was literally made to be a stand-in for access to said human sexuality... and at that, it is an expert.
You're labeled delusional and insecure if you expect to be the only one/thing your partner shares sexual experiences with. You're controlling if you expect your partner to wait for you to release sexually instead of jerk off to other, and to always include you whenever possible. If you're really that pent up and can't wait, you don't really need porn, do you. Masturbation isn't the enemy, it is porn. What you get off to and where you direct your sexual energy matters.