https://www.reddit.com/r/Advice/comments/1iiym3m/how_do_guys_find_girlfriends_and_relationships/
created by scp682_ on 06/02/2025 at 09:22 UTC
4 upvotes, 3 top-level comments (showing 3)
It seems so difficult.
I've also had some terrible experiences with girls. Some girls seem to have big egos and not wanna be talked to or approached.
Most seem to have a boyfriend.
I feel so upset about being a virgin as a 19 year old. I don't understand how so many guys do it. There's never any opportunity to talk to girls and be in a relationship with them.
Please no incel bs or "PUA" stuff like "negging". I wanna have a constructive and respectful post and hear advice from other guys.
And PLEASE don't tell me things like "get a good career and make money" because stuff like that doesn't seem true. I've seen so many guys who aren't rich or 6ft tall who have girlfriends or had girlfriends or just casual sex. My sister's friends have dated guys who don't fit these crazy standards I see on social media.
Comment by Patrik7770127 at 06/02/2025 at 09:37 UTC
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Honestly? I got incredibly lucky. Like 1 in a bilion. I was bored one day, it was during corona, lockdown and all that funny stuff and decided to play few matches of Among Us because I didn't feel like doing anything else.
Joined a random lobby and there she was, the only other person using the brain while playing. After few matches, she asked for my ig and we've been talking everyday ever since, that was over 4 years ago, we pretty much instantly became best friends, and even tho we were from different countries, we managed somehow and we've been dating for almost 2 years now.
Just do what you like to do and who knows what you might find one day 🤷
Comment by PPVSteve at 06/02/2025 at 10:02 UTC
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Many of them have large social circles. That helps. The hardest thing for men and women is cold approach. You don't know what to say and she doesn't know how to react. It's much better when a friend says hey I know this guy that's a friend of a friend he's single. I will invite him out with us tonight for dinner. And see what you think.  You don't even know your on a date you are just hanging out and being yourself. Not "date guy" she falls in love with you without you even knowing it and now you are in her sights for the next BF. She makes it so you asking her out seems like your idea. Before you know it you are in a relationship.
So if you have a hard time making friends in general you may have a hard time with romantic relationships.
And quite honestly that is a real problem with your generation raised on social media.  Just making friends.
Comment by RicceLoverr at 06/02/2025 at 10:16 UTC
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no idea